Family Therapy

My Approach to Family Work

People seek family therapy for many reasons. Sometimes it is recommended by a friend or another professional. Some may choose to engage in family therapy to work on improving relationships with one another, to process shared traumatic experiences or to deal with major life changes such as a divorce, addition to family or shared loss.

Family therapy can provide a safe space to gain insight about maladaptive patterns and to learn healthy ways to communicate with each other. It can help address unresolved conflict, improve communication and gain insight about behavioral patterns. I often work with people who make a conscious decision to identify and release legacy or cultural burdens which may be impacting relationship dynamics.

I am experiential and integrative in my approach and incorporate tailored techniques based on specific family goals and needs. I utilize Structural Family Therapy techniques to help families identify unspoken/invisible set of rules that may be causing distress or conflicts, as well as identifying under-utilized strengths and resources. A structural approach can help families develop more insight about specific roles, boundaries and relational/communication patterns.

As a collaborative family therapist, I often meeting with family members individually to identifying individual strengths and understand each person’s perspective, level of insight and role in the family system. A key philosophy in collaborative therapy is that multiple realities exist, so there is no single correct way to view a situation. I often incorporate IFS to provide clients with concrete strategies that can assist them in maintaining healthy relationships with other family members, even in the presence of conflicting views/experiences. This approach can help with developing flexibility to understand each other better and develop skills to have meaningful conversations and increased connection both inside and outside of the therapy space.

“Family dysfunction travels like wild fire from generation to generation until one brave soul turns around to face the flames. That person brings peace to the generations who came before them and spares the generations to come.”

Terry Real